You should not encourage this kind of domestic violence, Shehu Sani cautions Emir Sanusi

A former lawmaker who represented Kaduna Central, Shehu Sani has cautioned the Emir of Kano against encouraging any form of domestic violence.

Reacting to the traditional leader’s remark that he always tells his daughters at the point of getting married to slap back their husbands should they (the husbands) ever slap them.

Emir Sanusi made the controversial remarks at the National Dialogue Conference on Gender-Based Violence (GBV) which took place at Bayero University in Kano.

However, reacting to the traditional leader’s remark and advice to his girls, Sani said retaliation is usually not the solution to family disputes.

In a post made on Facebook, Sani wrote, “His Highness Sanusi should not be encouraging this kind of domestic violence in the form of slapping and slapping back.”

Continuing, the former lawmaker said husbands and wives should rather learn how to control themselves on moments of misunderstanding and never allow the devil visit their homes.

“When a husband is angry, he should walk out of the house and come back later.

“When a husband is upset and shouting loudly, the wife should just keep quiet and allow him to relieve all of his words.

“The sentence ‘I’m sorry’ has a magical spirit that can evict the demon in the house,” Sani said.

He further stated that shouting back at each other in relationships like marriage is the reason for the growing divorce rates.

He added, “If the man is becoming violent, the wife should protect herself by walking out to his family or her family home.

“The very day slapping and slapping back becomes the order of a family, the marriage is irreversibly destroyed, even if the couple remains together.

“Most of the participants in those mass weddings are literally divorced wives who believe in this revengeful idea of slapping back their husbands.

What is the possibility that when you slap your first husband you won’t slap the second one?” He queried.